I dedicated the past two years to understanding how people achieve their dreams. When we think about the dreams we have, and the dent we want to leave in the universe, it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is between the dreams that we have and projects that never happen. So I’m here to talk to you today about five ways how not to follow your dream.

我花了两年的时间去理解 人们如何让实现他们的梦想。说到我们的梦想、 我们想要在这个宇宙留下的痕迹。 让人吃惊的是， 我们的梦想常常只是梦。 今天我在这里要讲的是 5个如何毁灭梦想的办法。

One :Believe in overnight success. You know the story, right? The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money. You know, the story may seem real, but bet it’s incomplete. If you go investigate further, the guy has done 30 apps before and he has done a master’s on the topic, a Ph.D. He has been working on the topic for 20 year. This is really interesting, I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is overnight success. I come from a humble family, and two weeks before the deadline to apply to MIT, I started the application process. And, voila! I got in. people may think it’s an overnight success, but that only worked because for the 17 year prior to that, I took life and education seriously. Your overnight success story is always a result of everything you’ve done in your life through that moment.

第一：相信一夜成名。你肯定听过这样的故事， 一个技术男开发了一个移动应用 并迅速转卖赚了很多钱。这个故事可能是真的，但是可能的是不完整的。如果你深入研究就发现，这个人之前已经开发了30个应用，他有相关的硕士和博士学历，他研究这个领域已经20年了。这很有意思。我自己本身在巴西也是一个“一夜成名”的故事。我来自一个普通家庭，麻省理工大学申请截止日期两个星期前，我开是申请，哇啦，我被录取率！人们可能认为这是“一夜成名”，但这背后是我17年来，对生活和教育的执着努力。“一夜成名”总是你之前所有努力加起来的结果。

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you. Constantly, people want to help out, right? All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners, they all have opinions on which path you should take:”And let me tell you, go through this pipe.” But whenever you go inside, there are other ways you have to pick as well. And you need to make those decisions yourself. No one else has the perfect answers for your life. And you need to keep picking those decisions, right? The pipes are infinite and you’re going to bump your head, and it’s a part of the process.

第二：相信别人有你需要的答案。人们总是很乐意帮助，,对吗?各种各样的人:你的家人,你的朋友,你的商业伙伴,他们都觉得你应该这样或那样做。:“让我告诉你,通过这个管道。“但是当你进去,你还需做出其他的选择，你需要自己做出这些决定。没有人能对你的人生提供一个完美的答案。你需要自己做出这些决定,对吗?管道无穷无尽,你可能会撞到头,这是一这个过程的一部分。

Three, And it’s very subtle but very important: Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed. So when your life is going great, you have put together a great team, and you have growing and everything is set -- time to settle. When I launched my first book, I worked really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil. With that, over there million people downloaded it, over 50000 people bought physical copies. When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed. Even if I did little, sales would be okay. But okay is never okay. When you’re growing towards a peak, you need to work harder than ever and find

yourself another peak. Maybe if I did little, a couple hundred thousand people would read it, and that’s great already. But if I work harder than ever, I can bring this number up to millions. That’s why I

decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil. And I can already see a higher peak. There’s no time to settle down.

第三点不太明显但很重要:在一时的成功面前止步。当你的生活很棒,你组建的团队很棒,你的收入持续增长，一切都很好——可以休息了。我出版我的第一本书的时候,我非常努力的在巴西到处宣传。伴随我的努力，超过300万人下载了这本书,超过50000人购买了印刷版。当我写续集,影响力已经得到保障。即使我只付出一点点,销量也应该还是可以的。但是还可以是永远不够的。当你朝着一个顶峰前进时，你需要更加努力来找到另一个顶峰。也许如果我只付出一点点，几十万的人会读续集，这固然很棒，但是如果我付出前所未有的努力，我可以把这个数字推到几百万。这就是为什么我决定，把我的新书介绍的巴西每一个州，我已经能够看到一个更高的顶峰。没有时间止步。

Fourth tip, and that’s really important: Believe the fault is someone else’s. I constantly see people saying, “Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest.” “Oh, I created this great product, but the market is so bad, the sales didn’t go well.” Or, “I can’t find good talent; my team is so below expectations.” If you have dream, it’s your responsibility to make them happen. Yes, it may be hard to find talent. Yes, the market may be bad. But if no one invested in your idea, if no one bought your product, for sure, there is something there that is your fault. Definitely. You need to get your dreams and make them happen. And no one achieved their goals alone. But if you didn’t make them happen, it’s your fault and no one else’s. Be responsible for your dreams.

第四点也是非常重要的一点：相信错误永远是别人的。我们经常听到人们说：“是的，我与一个非常好的想法，但是没有有远见的投资者愿意投资。”“哦，我做了这个很棒的产品，但是市场太糟糕，销售情况不是很好。”或者，“我找不到人才，我的团队实在太差了。”如果你有梦想，让梦想实现是你的责任。是的，人才也许很难找，是的，市场也许很糟糕，但是如果没有人愿意为你的想法进行投资，如果没有人买你的产品，这其中肯定是因为你做错了什么。肯定！你需要努力把你的梦想变成现实。没有人可以一个人单独实现梦想，但是如果你不努力实现它，那是你自己的错而非他人。你需要对你的梦想负责。

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well: Believe that the only things that, matter are the dreams themselves. Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends, they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain, and it was a lot of work. You could see that they were sweating and this was tough. And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak. Of course, they decided to

celebrate, right? I’m going to celebrate, so, “Yes! We made it, we’re at the top!” Tow seconds later, one looks at the other and says, “okay, let’s go down.” Life is never about the goals themselves. Life is

about the journey. Yes you should enjoy the goals themselves, but people think that you have dreams, and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams, it’s a magical place where happiness will be all around. But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation, and your life is not. The only way to really achieve all of your dream is to fully enjoy every step of your journey. That’s the best way. And your journey is simple – it’s made of steps. Some steps will be right on. Sometimes you will trip. If it’s right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate. And if you tripped, turn that into sometime to learn. If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate, you will for sure enjoy the journey.

最后一点也是非常重要的一点：相信只有梦想本是最重要的。我曾看到过一个广告，很多朋友在一起，我们在爬山，这是一座很高的山，他们爬的很辛苦，你能看到他们汗流浃背很累，他们往上爬最终爬到了顶峰，当然，他们决定庆祝，对吗？开始庆祝，有人说：“耶，我们到啦，我们到达顶峰啦！”两秒钟后，其中两个人相互看了看说：“那么，我们下山吧。”人生不是关于目标本身，而是关于旅程。你应该享受目标本身，但人们觉得如果你有梦想，而你实现梦想的时候，那是一个神奇的地方，那离别幸福环绕。但梦想实现的那一刻只是短暂的一瞬，而你的人生不是一瞬。真正实现梦想的唯一办法就是，尽情享受路程的每一步。这是最好的办法。你的旅程很简单----它由一步一步组成的。有的你会走的很顺利，有的时候你也会绊倒。如果很顺利，那么庆祝吧，因为有的人等很久才能庆祝，如果绊倒了，把它变成学习的机会。如果每一步都是用来学习或者庆祝，你肯定会享受这个旅程。

So, five tips: Believe in overnight success. Believe someone else has the answers for you. Believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down. Believe the fault is someone else’s, and believe goals themselves matter. Believe me, if you do that, you will destroy your dreams.

总结一下，5个办法：相信一夜成名，相信别人有你需要的答案，相信在一时的成功面前应该止步，相信错误永远是别人的，相信只有目标本身是重要的。相信我，如果你做了这些，你肯定成功毁灭了你的梦想。

第二篇：理想并没有毁灭

理想并没有毁灭

人一旦有了理想，就会不断地拼搏。当记者是我一生中最大的理想。 小的时候，每当看到电视上的记者采访报导时，我的脑海中就充满了对未来的无限憧憬。我常常独自一人关在书房里，对着镜子，拿起书，卷成筒形，模仿电视上的记者做现场报导。我感到那是我最大的快乐。我时常告诉自己，今后一定要努力，争取当一名记者，而且是个出色的记者。这个理想就这样一直伴随着我度过了快乐的童年。进入初中后，当听到学校小记者站正在招收新成员时，我毫不犹豫地报名参加了。面对学校的“精英们”，我曾经气馁过，但为了实现我的理想，便又坚强起来。在笔试中，自信满满的我凭自己的实力通过了这一关。第二关是面试，我毫无把握，因为小学上课时，我很少举手，平时又不善与人交谈。记得那天上台演讲时，我的心情是多么的激动，一篇准备得自认为很充分的讲稿，被我讲得支离破碎。果然，我没有被录取。

当听到这一消息时，我犹如被晴天霹雳砸了一下，愣在那里，心中非常乱，好久才回过神来。我呆呆地站在窗前，望着远方，眼泪在眼眶里打转，心想：这是为什么呢？难道我的理想就这样被毁灭了吗？不，不是，是不是因为我的口才不好，语言表达能力差，还是因为我的紧张，我自信心不够坚强??这些都是构成我不能被录取的原因。像我目前这样的水平，想当上小记者，我自认条件不够。不过，我并不气馁。今后，我会主动加强口语表达训练，上课多举手发言。我相信：只要我不懈努力，明年小记者站招收新会员，我还会报名，到那时，我会让所有的人对我“刮目相看”。我还想当上一名大记者呢！

想到这里，一股舒畅的感觉涌上心头。是的，这次我虽然没有当上小记者，但是，通过竞选，我锻炼了自己，我的理想不会因为这次失败而遭受挫折，相反，我更清楚地认识到自己的不足，我会为实现我的理想而付出实践，我的理想并没有毁灭。