How to Win Friends and Influence People

As early as the middle of the 20th century, when the economic downturn, inequality, war is the devil indelible human pursuit of a better life of the soul, of Carnegie, with his insight into human nature, a large number of ordinary people constantly strive to achieve the success stories, through him, The speeches and writings arouse the morale of many a confused, encourage them to a brilliant success, as Mr. Carnegie said: "A person's success, only 15 percent attributed to his expertise, 85 percent attributed to him Expression of thought, leading others and the ability to arouse the enthusiasm of others. "

"The weakness of human nature," a book the author described as dealing, the rationale for doing things, so that impressed me most deeply in an article entitled "unfavorable factors will translate into success factor", there has been a story to inspire Me.

Happen in 1929, a youth to the mountains to cut down Hill walnut, he wood pile in the car, drove home. Suddenly a wooden sliding down, he is Jizhuan Wan, the wood in the axle of the card, he bounced to a tree, the spine was injured. Since then both legs paralyzed.

At that time, young people aged 24, since then, he has not traversed step Road, was considered a lifetime spent in a wheelchair. Zuonong the fate of his resentment, but with age Jianchang, he found no resistance on their help, only to become their own Jiansuankebo. Others are courteous and good to me, I should at least have to respond to the courtesy and good people. More than 10 years have passed, some people asked him think that is an unfortunate incident? ? He said: "No! I was almost glad that it happened." Shock and resentment that experience of the stage, he began reading the literature and culture from the hobby. 14, he read over 1,400 books, these books expand his vision, his life than in the past could have imagined even rich He also began listening to music, he moved before the symphony will only let him nap However, really the most important changes, or thought he had the time. "The first time in my life, the real intentions of the world to see and appreciate its value, experience of previous efforts to pursue a lot of things have no real value."

Since reading, he began the political interest in his study of public issues, in a wheelchair a speech. He began to understand people, and people have begun to know him, because such efforts, a local political figures from elevated to a national political figure. The legend is that Al ? Smith. He was re-elected governor of New York 4 session - then no one has such a record. In 1958, he was elected as the Democratic presidential candidate, and the results achieved so hard to make up for his deficiencies are inseparable.

James once said: "Their success is the most excited because some of the shortcomings of their potential." Yes, a lot of successful people is successful, because they have a capability, will be a negative factor for the successful conversion factor The ability of such capacity in general the depths of adversity, when almost no transfer will be inspired by, if Zhang Lincoln in a rich family, perhaps it can not become now the Americans can not forget a great leader.

People always will be faced with difficult, in the face of failure, but this is not your retreat of the reasons people are above the other on biological, because he is extremely subjective initiative, he can to change some things, but not forever Quietly waiting for extinction. Life is not the most important thing you have used to measure the real important issue is how you from the loss of profit. This requires wisdom, it also shows the Sophia Xia Yu, the fate of each person to a lemon acid, it into a cup of sweet lemonade, this is our need to do, Carnegie, said: " True happiness is not pleasant, it is more than a victory. "Right, sometimes you win in possession of forged by the

unfortunate, it is not in itself be good, but your training. Is you get rich inner world, can only become a victory.

Also as the title "human weakness", is full of human weaknesses, but because there are weaknesses, we may look forward to tomorrow will be better, be more perfect.

中文翻译：

早在20世纪中叶，当经济不景气、不平等，战争恶魔正在磨灭人类追求美好生活的心灵时，卡耐基先生以他对人性的洞察，利用大量普通人不断努力取得成功的故事，通过他的演讲和著作唤起无数陷入迷茫的斗志者，激励他们取得辉煌的成功，正如卡耐基先生所言：“一个人的成功，只有15%归结于他的专业知识，还有85%归结于他表达思想、领导他人及唤起他人热情的能力。”

在《人性的弱点》一书中作者阐述了为人之道、处事之理，其中让我印象最深刻的一篇文章名为《将不利因素转化为成功因子》，里面的一个故事一直不断地激励着我。

事情发生在19xx年，一个青年到山上去砍伐山胡桃木，他把木材堆在车上，开车回家。忽然一根木条滑了下来，正在他急转弯时，木条卡在了车轴上，他被弹到一个树上，脊椎骨受了伤。双腿从此瘫痪。

当时年轻人才24岁，从那以后，他没有再走过一步路，被认为一辈子要在轮椅上度过。他怨恨命运的作弄，然而随着年岁渐长，他发现抗拒对自己毫无帮助，只不过使自己变得尖酸刻薄。别人都和善礼貌地对我，我起码也应该礼貌和善地回应人家。

十几年过去了，有些人问他觉得那次事件是个不幸吗？他说：“不！我几乎庆幸它的发生。”经历那个震惊和愤恨的阶段，他开始阅读并培养起对文学的嗜好。14年来，他读了1400多本书籍，这些书拓展了他的视野，他的人生比以前所能想象的还要丰富；他也开始欣赏音乐，现在令他感动的交响乐以前只会让他打盹；然而，真正最重大的改变，还是他有了思考的时间。“我一生中第一次，真正用心看世界，并体会其价值，体会到以前努力追求的很多事情都没有真正的价值。”

由于阅读，他开始对政治感兴趣，他研究公共问题，坐在轮椅上发表演说。他开始了解人们，而人们也开始认识他，因为这种努力，他由一位地方政治人物提升到全国性的政治人物。这位传奇人物就是阿尔?史密斯。他曾连任4届纽约州长——当时还没有人拥有这样的纪录。19xx年，他当选为民主党总统候选人，取得这样的成绩和他用勤奋弥补缺憾是分不开的。

詹姆斯曾说过：“他们的成功大部分是因为某种缺陷激发了他们的潜力。”是的，很多成功人士之所以成功，是因为他们具有一种能力，一种将不利因素转化为成功因子的能力，这种能力一般在深处逆境，几乎没有转机时才会被激发出来，林肯如果生张在一个富有的家庭，也许它不可能成为现在还让美国人不能忘记的一位伟大领袖。

人总将面对坎坷，面对失败，但这不是你退缩的理由；人之所以凌驾于其它生物之上，是因为他具有极强的主观能动性，他能去改变一些事物，而不是永远的默默地等待灭亡。人生最重要的不是用你所拥有的来衡量，真正重要的课题是如何从你的损失中获利。这才需要智慧，也才显示出人的上智下愚，命运交给每个人一个酸柠檬，把它做成一杯甜的柠檬汁，这才是我们需要做的，卡耐基先生说过：“真正的快乐不见得是愉悦的，它多是一种胜利。”对，有时候胜利发生在你身上的不幸所铸就的，它本身不值得愉悦，但却锻炼了你。是你得到充实的内心世界，所以只能成为胜利。

还如书名《人性的弱点》一样，人性确实充满弱点，但正因为存在弱点，我们才可能去期待明天会更好，会更完美。

第二篇：A repot of how to win friends2《人性的弱点》英文读书报告

A repot of how to win friends & influence

people

By Dale Carnegie

As the Leo Tolstoy said: All happy families are happy alive, all unhappy families are unhappy in their own way. How could you do if your parents are going to divorce? Part Six of this book gives us six rules as following. First, don't, don't nag. Something unhappy happened because of some details. Usually, a wife of an unhappy life was always complaining, always criticizing her husband, nothing about him was ever right. In his way, certainly, the husband regarded his unfortune marriage, and avoid her presence as much as possible. For example, Leo Tolstoy's life was a tragedy, and the cause of his tragedy was his marriage. His wife loved luxury, but he despised it. So he said the famous sentence which I have quoted in the first paragraph. In my opinion, a couple are gloriously happy when they were first married, but after a few years or several decades, one of them could hardly bear the sight of the other. My parents are the typical one. There are continous quarreling on thry begin to speak to each other. I feel upset and tired.

Second, don't try to make your partner over. As Leland Foster Wood in his book, Growing Together in the Family, has observed:" Success in

marriage is much more than a matter of finding the right person; it is also a matter of being the right person." I can not agree it any more. In a marriage, you should try to your soulmate be himself and give them more freedom to him. Furthermore, when he was in low mood, you also need to be his spirital support.

Third, don't criticize. As an integrity, every member of the family are willing to take care of the others. For instance, no matter how delicious and awful the meal is, you should not criticize directly.

Fourth, give honest appreciation. Most men when seeking wives are not not looking for executives but for someone with allure and willingness to flatter their vanity and make them feel superior. Hence, the woman office manager may be invited to luncheon, once. Men should express their appreciation of a woman's effort to look well and dress becomingly. Because almost every woman are interested in clothes. Besides, after your wife finishing cooking, please let her know that you appreciate the fact that you are grateful and happy. Exactly, if a woman is to find happiness at all in her husband. She is to find it in his appreciation, and devotion. If that appreciation and devotion is actual, there is the answer to his happiness also.

Fifth, pay little attention. Too many men underestimate the value of these small, everyday attentions. I believe that the majority of our mothers have not received any flower from our fathers since many years ago. In the

contrast, if our fathers do this ,our mothers are bound to feel happier and so will be our family. Only after paying little attention can a family become more warm.

Sixth, be courteous. Do you find that each of us is more polite to strangers than we are to our own relatives. It is a common phenomenon. Every man knows that he can kiss his wife's eyes until she will be blind. Every woman never knows whether to be mad at his husband with him, because he would rather fight with her and pay for it in having to eat bad meals, and have his money wasted, and buy what she loves, than to take the trouble to flatter her a litter and treat her the way she is begging to be treated.

In a conclution, I think every member of the family with a warmhearted, understanding and such merits can build a happy family together.