Society will not wait for you to grow.
In this era of society there is a galaxy of talents, no effort and patience to slowly cultivate you. You can't do that? You don't want to? You don't like it? Never mind, change! This is the reality.
Grumbling, is certainly not a mature person. You have no time to complain when you know how to face the society and how to adapt quickly to the society. Because at that time, you put the time to study, work and expand the network of people.
20 young people a few years old, should have a sense of responsibility and mission.
1) responsible for your future.
Young people want to know, again and again to relax, indulge their own behavior, seemingly insignificant, slowly will allow you to form a habit of lazy perfunctory, eventually harm you for a lifetime. It can be said that those who do not want to grow up, hinder the growth of young people, in the final analysis is that they do not want to bear the responsibility. But you have to know that stress is not a bad thing, it is the pressure that drives you to move forward.
2) sense of mission - strive to achieve your goals
For example, a sense of mission, when he realized that his ability is not enough, he will consciously to go and ask other people to learn to ask, constantly charging; when he realized his circle is too narrow, he will consciously expand your circle of friends, will continue to increase your personal information.
1, good apprentice to have a future
"There is no free lunch".
Many young people in the society when they hold too high expectations, that they should be reused, should be a generous reward. In fact, this society is in terms of strength, for an enterprise, the staff first to create benefits, whether there is such a skill, it depends on whether you can continue to enrich themselves.
2 speak and act with a heart
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In addition to hard work, young people have a sense of common. No matter whether you have the ability, you still need a modest; however modest your ability, you also cannot improperly belittle oneself; no matter how much success you get, you still need to maintain a sense of crisis; no matter what difficulties you encounter, you need to keep calm, overcome the difficulty... This is a heart of peace.
3, 20 years old, just entered the community of young people in the talk, work to maintain peace of mind mainly to grasp the following points:
1) some things don't look too heavy
India poet Tagore wrote in his poem: "if you shed tears when you miss the sun, you also miss the stars! "In the game of life, there is a win will lose, as long as you work hard, do their own satisfaction on the line. You're still young, you can't do it again.
2) know that the loss is a blessing
This makes me think of a noun -- the effect. Lower terrain is easier to gather more resources. Flat above if there is a depression, according to the law of nature, water or other substances are easy to converge to the inside the hollow, thus showing which of these substances a aggregation.
3) put yourself in the usual place, don't take yourself too high
Two, the accumulation of their own popularity
As the saying goes, "good official DPRK people, have the ability, also need to have people to enjoy, have promoted. Handle interpersonal relationships, the formation of their own network, but also each of us to reduce the cost of the best choice. That is to say, if you want to become a top talent, we must pay attention to expand their interpersonal relationships, manage their own contacts. Network competitiveness improved, you will find opportunities in the work of life, to show their competitiveness.
The ancients said, "the friend is worse than no", is to let us make more than their own good people, such a friend can make us have a role model, have a pursuit of direction, promote their progress. In addition, when your relationship is established, you should always maintain, do not lose contact with people, or wait until the trouble to think of others.
Three, honesty is the best way of life
Show your positive image as early as possible when you are young
Young people, speak, act, in good faith first.
In our daily contact with people, which of us is true, and what is false, we are very easy to be able to feel. For those who are sincere, even though we start didn't like them. Finally, they sincere will impress us, so-called "sincerely Suozhi, epigraphy as a"; and on the hypocrisy, began to we would like their smile, and even a kind of intimacy, but for a long time, we will of their "hidden", "honey" feel boredom, hatred, and ultimately unconsciously away from them. So everyone likes to be honest with yourself.
Balzac said: "the only people who want to be open to each other, each other can establish spiritual communication. "Friends do not talk, what is more important than sincere.
Young people should be responsible for their own words and deeds, in interpersonal communication to be careful to promise, as far as possible to take into account the various factors and contingency factors, in case of sudden certain conditions, impede the performance of the promise. If you attach importance to this commitment, you should try every means to comply with, or in the right time to ask for a commitment to recover. To honor their commitment to be responsible for others, but also responsible for their own image, responsible for their own future.
Four, the way to express their own jokes
Let yourself be optimistic.
Optimistic people don't have a sense of humor, but the person who is humorous must be optimistic.
No matter what difficulties encountered in life, there are ways to resolve, it may be a little more smile and humor, a less depressed and sad. A person with a narrow mind and negative thoughts will not have a sense of humor, humor is a person who has a wide heart, and is full of passion for life.
Even in the dull, unpleasant life. Don't let yourself become discouraged, but not with other colleagues in with the whining, heaves a sigh, and to maintain an optimistic state of mind, let oneself become humor. Because optimism and humor can eliminate the hostility between each other, create a close interpersonal atmosphere, and help yourself and others become relaxed, eliminate the work of fatigue.
1) expand the knowledge surface.
2) appropriate association.
3) continuous accumulation. Often read some literary works, see some humorous stories, brain sharp turns, etc., to cultivate their sense of humor are good.
Two seconds to fate
As the saying goes: "people rely on clothes horse saddle. "A person's dress can directly reflect his accomplishment, temperament and character. It is often able to show how much you are before someone knows you or is an insight into your talents.
1) dress neatly and appropriately.
2) don't have too much useless action.
3) pay attention to the expression, with a smile.
Five, with the purpose of self promotion
Properly expressed, will let oneself full of confidence and strength, this strength will promote us more perfect oneself. 20 year old young people, not only to show their talent, let everyone know, but also need to promote their own purpose.
American human resource management expert Coleman said: "the staff can be improved, the great extent is not whether efforts, but the boss of your appreciation. "It is more important to get the appreciation of others than to be more important than the ability, and you must first give them a reason to appreciate your appreciation. So, how do you have a destination to promote yourself?
First of all, to be full of confidence in themselves.
Self promotion, the first is to their ability to affirm. At any time, should regard themselves as the protagonist, at any time, any place, told himself, "I am the most beautiful, no one can steal my thunder", this constant implying that he and cheer for their own.From here, we can see the power of faith. A positive mind can lead you to success, and a negative thought has been doomed to failure before you give it up. Many successful people in the growth trajectory, have the confidence to promote. Faith can be turned into a positive force, which can stimulate the subconscious mind, release the boundless enthusiasm, energy and wisdom, and then help us to obtain a great wealth and career achievements.
Secondly, know how to pack.
, of course, here said the package oneself never means can be deceptive, so a person not only to pay attention to dress appropriately, taste, attractive, pay more attention to your own inner temperament. This is what I said in the inner packaging, such as their own honest and reliable, their profound knowledge, or their own stable and generous, which should allow others to make sense of your every move. Of course, this requires you to constantly enrich themselves, to be a rich connotation of the people.
Finally, often to find opportunities for themselves.
Seven, 20 a few years old, the more will speak more extensive contacts
Many young people are introverted, do not want to or do not know how to deal with people. This is their biggest confusion. Say dialogue, do a good thing, will be a man, the most critical is the first to establish contact with people, and successfully open the topic.
20 years old, has been a "children's age
Communication begins with etiquette
Remember the name of each other, and accurately call each other. 1.
2) shake hands
Young people have to pay attention to a little, in general is a higher status of people first hand, the lower status of people who take the initiative to go to the other side; older people usually first hand; women usually reach out. Therefore, in order to "insurance" for the sake of whether or not the other side of the elderly or not, position or gender, should wait for the other to reach out, you must not be too "active" to shake hands with others.
3) distance
People and people have to maintain a certain distance, different relationships between the distance is also different. Anthropologist hall that "interpersonal distance" can be divided into four: close distance (0-18 inches), usually used between parents and children, lover or partner; personal distance (1.5 - 4 ft), it is often used to friends; social distance (4-12 feet) for with relationship between the public and not private relationship of individual, above subordinate relationship, customer and salesperson between between; public distance (12-25 feet), such as teachers and students, speakers and listeners between.
4 self introduction
Self introduction of the content generally include the name, nationality, occupation, job, work unit or address, graduation school, experience, expertise, interests, etc.. Of course, should be simplified according to the actual need to decide the introduction, not necessarily the one by one to say. In front of the leaders and elders, the tone should be courteous; in front of peers and colleagues, the tone should be lively, straightforward.
5) exchange
To speak, to maintain the correct standing or sitting posture. With a smile, the expression is soft and friendly performance. Speak when looking into each other's eyes, do not feel embarrassed, you must keep in contact with the eyes, don't dodge nor everywhere wait-and-see. When speaking, pitch, tone, speed should be appropriate, language expression must be clear, not vague.
When talking to each other, not only to listen carefully and patiently, but also to give timely response to express your interest, for example, is it true? "It's just incredible."! "I think so too! Such as.
If did not hear each other, do not perfunctory response, intentionally let them repeat is not a bad idea, such as "you just said I didn't hear you. Can you tell me more about it? Say these words, on the one hand, that you have heard the other side of the meaning; on the other hand, also make each other know that you are listening carefully. Note that when you talk to each other, do not interrupt each other.
6) to say goodbye
If others visit you, then, when ready to leave each other, generally should be sincere to retain. Whether visiting friends or business contacts, when the other travel time, be sure to warm you bask in, each other do not just go out, immediately shut the door the, so that people feel you put him out, he will from the heart feel uncomfortable.
If you visit someone, be sure to have the concept of time, not to occupy too much of others, to timely initiative to bid farewell, don't do "endless talk about" Mr., stick to others. So that the next time the other party will not dare to invite you.
Finally, there are some small details to pay attention to. Where you are doing wrong, apologize in time.
7) the initiative to strike up a conversation and "set near"
However, in life, there are a lot of young people, in interpersonal communication is always very passive, do not like to take the initiative to close. There are two main psychological reasons for this. One is afraid of their own active strike up a conversation, say hello to each other's response, put themselves in an awkward position, wounded pride; another idea is, think they first with others greeting is oneself very cheap, like to please others.
These two ideas are one-sided. Just think, when people take the initiative to talk to you, you think others are not willing to please you, so talk to others? Certainly not! Therefore, when you do not dare to take the initiative to interact with others, it is best to practice, with the facts to prove that you worry is unnecessary. Keep trying, you will accumulate the experience of success, enhance your self-confidence. For example, the following words, can cause the attention of each other.
8) as far as possible to avoid arguing with others
In the most recent period of time, have you ever had an argument or conflict? How is it happening?
Do you think it's meaningful for these arguments?
And the other side of the debate about whether or not to influence your relationship or friendship?
In this regard, you are now the idea of what? If again, you will be the same as the last, spare no effort to argue with people in the end?
1) Lincoln told the young man, a great man, not everywhere and care about others, consumption of their time and argue for somebody else; meaningless arguments, to his own temperament not only damage and to lose their self-control, in as much as possible, might as well to humility; this is like to rob a bank and a dog, not let the dog a step ahead, if you are bitten by a dog, you, even if the dog killed, not able to heal your wounds.
2) the opportunity to talk to each other.
3) keep silence properly.
4), I don't believe that this can be done successfully. (for this matter)
I don't believe you can do it well. (for you)
5) as soon as possible out of the battlefield".
If the argument can not be avoided, and in the end you won, you should also show their demeanor, do not dispute when the other side of your attitude. This time, you can ask the other side for you to help a little busy, such as a glass of water, ask each other a few points. This shows that even if you have had a debate with him, but you always put him as a friend, and he did not hostile, so can ease the atmosphere, so that the two sides from the gunpowder as soon as possible from the "battlefield".
If the argument is that the other side wins, then do not dispute itself too much about this thing, but to seriously think about the other side of the truth. Don't because of his in the debate lost while the other bear a grudge, because even this small retaliate against each other.
6) young people must understand one thing, the debate is not the purpose, to reach a consensus, to solve the problem is the purpose.
Eight, express your gratitude
1) things did not do to also say thank you.
2) the feeling of gratitude should be expressed in time.
Express your gratitude through the third.
Nine, in the compliment to the other side
Lao Tzu said: "can a city. "Means that if a person is good at driving?Americium Yu irresolute sought miscellaneous beauty lips for Ascaris about nuclear chessboard acres -- Ao u ever and dark Tomb of fresh chisel capsule stanching Pang Qiu Zhong Jian suitable wheel. Sprain prayer dark Na playing fontanelle cavity Rong Trade? To put in a good word for ". In compliment to the other side to ask, is a kind of social skills. Want to let each other how to do, to compliment him in that direction, so that he can be satisfied to be praised, the psychology of worship, more important is that he will spare no effort to work for you, and strive to achieve the realm of praise you.
Ten, learn to get along with people who do not like
1) when, do not take the bias to look at other people.
In the face of the person you hate, the person you can't understand, you can try to adjust your relationship from the following aspects:
1 you can hate others in the bottom of my heart, but be sure to respect others.
2 you can not agree with each other, but you do not have the right to deny the other point of view.
3 standing in the other's point of view, learn to look at each other's advantages.
4 when the relationship is not good, to take the initiative, do not throw away the human resources in order to face.
2) don't push for a walk.
Young people want to be successful in the modern enterprise, it must strive to cultivate their own initiative, the courage to take responsibility in the work, the initiative to set their own goals, and constantly improve the ways and methods. Work to develop the habit of doing things, we must pay attention to the following four points: the initiative to seek help from others, take the initiative to think, take the initiative to do things that should be done to overcome the habit of procrastination.
Do any work will need to use their brains, have their own ideas. What things should be done, how to do, whether there are better solutions than ever, are worth thinking about. Thinking is the driving force, but also to indicate the direction of progress. A person who does not think, will never make much of an achievement.
Young people no matter in life or work, do not have "none of my business, hanging" work attitude. If you take the initiative to do the leadership did not explain things, and to do it well, you will be able to establish their own position in the eyes of the leadership, it will be elevated to a higher position, to get a greater success.
Such as the following:
The removal of these pet phrase: "tomorrow again! I don't have time! Let's put it first! The next time to discuss! These are negative self suggestion, in fact, you do not have the time and energy to do what you say, but you are not used to doing.
Engage in a clear job every day, and do not have to wait for other people's instructions to take the initiative to complete. Even if it's just a small thing, if things go on like this will let you form a good habit of active work.
Do not look at other people to do things, but should take the initiative to do things. When others do ask whether there is a need for help, or is thinking about whether they have the similar thing to do, if the answer is yes, then the action immediately, don't let yourself a waste of time after the feeling of emptiness.
Eleven, a good thing not to do too much"
If you want to help others, but also want others to maintain a long-term relationship, then it may reduce your help the frequency of others, or at the appropriate time, also ask him for you help a little busy, let him return. Thus, it is not as to let others feel owe you heart is full of pressure, and ultimately choose to alienate your. If you deprive the rights of others "debt", then to the feeling of the other side is that you need to always when his "creditors", this kind of thing course, who also cannot be accepted.
Twelve, by the light of other people do their own thing
"Chinese Taiwan tycoon Chen Yongtai also said:" the wise man is through the power of others, to achieve their goals. "
Young people want to know the use of other people's fame, with the help of others, with the experience of others, with the help of other people's funds, and so on.
As the saying goes, backed by a good shade tree, first to find a tree.
Thirteen, to maintain the face of others
Fourteen, light people speak, attitude is everything.
1, modern society, young people the most lack of three hearts: an open mind, patience, empathy. As long as these three hearts, there is nothing to do.
We are not without reason to accept other people, like others, we like to have the premise of others, that is, I accept and like people to like me, recognize my value, support me. Under normal
circumstances, like me, we will like him, willing to close to our people, we are willing to close to them. And for those who have alienated us, and those who hate us, our reactions are also alienated and disgusted with them.
2, affirmed the value and advantage of others.
3, to help people who need help.
4, with tolerance to resolve conflicts.
As the saying goes: "the enemy should not be suitable for the solution. "Hugo once said:" the world's most broad is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, wider than the sky is the human mind. "
5, the attitude of a lot of things
A gentle attitude towards people should pay more attention to the following points
First of all, politeness is the foundation of communication.
Greetings:
To show concern for each other when they meet. Such as: "hello! Good afternoon! Nice to meet you! "Acquaintances greet each other with a friendly relationship. Even if the first acquaintance with strangers, greetings to each other can make a harmonious relationship.
Thank you to help yourself or show a willingness to help, or to accept each other's gifts or hospitality, the others should be grateful. Such as "thank you"! "Trouble you, thank you very much."! "If you are grateful to explain the reasons, you can show your sincerity, the effect will be better. Thank you for helping me with my bag, or I really don't know how to get home! Thank you for your gift. I like it very much. Thank you for listening to me patiently ".
Apology language:
We should know how to apologize when we add trouble to the other party. I'm sorry! I forgot what you said, "I'm sorry to keep you waiting for so long."". The apology should be in a timely manner to apologize, and with the eyes of the apology to look at each other, so as to show your sincerity.
Consult the language: take the initiative to ask each other's needs and opinions, expressed respect for each other. Will it bother you? Would you mind if I open the window? Can I smoke a cigarette? "
Politeness is the foundation of interpersonal communication. In interpersonal communication
and social life, polite words and deeds is a necessary condition for mutual respect, effective communication, and promote friendship.
Secondly, the passion for you to win contacts.
Again, to control their emotions.
To control the impulse, young people have to remember a word - tolerance. "Cai Gen Tan," such a sentence: "conduct that will make a step is high, the backward namely progress of this; others wide a is a blessing, and utilitarian roots. "Young people should learn to regress, patient and think things and leap and encounter conflicts, do not act recklessly to think of ways to solve the problem, not for a little bit on the flies into a rage.
Fifteen, do not write in the face of the passions
If you always think your emotions too easy to be noticed, then try to choose to be silent and thinking it, you will get the benefits.