2上帝那里没有现成的果实
三个人千辛万苦找到了上帝，请求他给予帮助。上帝问他们各需要什么。第一个人说他要一座大宅院；第二个人说，他要一个农庄；第三个人说他要一块大金条。上帝说他可以满足他们的需要。于是上帝给了第一个人一堆砖头，给了第二个人一把种子，给了第三个人一把沙子。
No Ready-made Fruit in God’s Hand
Three guys finally got the God through trials and errors. They were eager to ask God for help. Right after the God asked what they want, the first man claim a big courtyard, the second a farmstead, and the third a bar of gold. God promised them. At last, the first man was given a pile of bricks, the second a bag of seed and the third a mass of sand.
3虫子的压力
有这么一种虫子，它的体长还不到一毫米，也许因为在电子显微镜下看起来像一头黑熊，所以人们叫它雄虫。它主要生活在淡水的沉渣，潮湿土壤以及苔藓植物的水膜中。最近日本冈山大学物理学家小野文久发现了一个惊人的现象：当20只小熊虫被放入密封的容器内，在实验室制造的7.5万个大气压下，20只熊虫只有两只死亡，其余的18只安然无恙。7.5万个大气压！它相当于每平方豪米要承受700多千克重物的压力，它足以上淀粉瞬间变性，生米顷刻为熟饭。自然条件下，地球上也只有180千米的地幔深处才拥有如此大的压力。
至今没有人能弄清楚熊虫为何如此能忍。不只是出于对这种超强生命力的尊重还是怀疑，有人叫它地狱之虫。一个长度不超过1毫米的微不足道的虫子，能承受命运给他如此的压力，相比较而言，我们这些自称是高级动物，智慧生命，万物之灵的人呢？在人的现实生活中，有多少小小的心结，小小的压力构成我们所谓的生存压力。在这样的压力下又有多少悲观失落之人将美好的人生称作地狱？现在一比才觉得，其实我们的压力就好比是真空，我饿美女的地狱就是天堂中的天堂。在那一刻，我在心里默默地鞠了一躬，不是为熊虫，而是感谢造物主没有把这样的压力降在人间。
Worm’s Pressure
This is a worm whose body is no less than one millimeter. It is called 熊虫(XC) perhaps for the reason that it looks like a black bear under the microscop. The XC usually habited in the slurry of fresh water, wet soil and the 水膜 of moss plants. Recently, there was an amazing news discovered by 日本冈山大学物理学家小野文久: when 20 little XC were placed in a sealed container under the 7.5 万个大气压 making in experiment condition, there were only two died and the other 18 have no trouble at all. 7.5 万个大气压, equal to over 700 kilogram stress per square meter, which is powerful enough to它足以上淀粉瞬间变性 and the rice ready to eat. In natural condition, this pressure can only be found in the 地幔 beneath the earth 180 kilogram.
Till now, nobody have an idea about the tolerance of XC. Someone also call it worm of hell out of admiration or suspicion. A worm, with its length less than one
millimeter, is able to bear so heavy stress. Comparatively, we human beings, the so-called advanced animal, wisdom and genius of all, can do that? In our real lives, so much little minds, little stress has made up our living stress. How many pessimistic and disappointed people compare the beautiful life to the miserable hell under this pressure? By comparing, I suddenly realized that our stress is just like the vacuum and the hell is the heaven in heaven. At that moment, I made a bow in my mind. Not for XC, but for the freedom of this stress in the world made by the creator.
9.豪华大厦意味着衰落
珀金森的―办公大楼法则‖是：某个组织的办公大楼设计得越完美，装饰得越豪华，该组织离解题的时间越进。
他发现，有许多生意兴隆的公司影响巨大的组织都设在不起眼的地方，住在简陋的房屋里，一旦搬进豪华的大厦，便转到衰退的轨道。例如，圣彼得教堂、罗马教堂、梵蒂冈教堂等宗教组织，就是在极盛时期开始修建这些教堂，宗教组织的实力就开始走下坡路了。国际联盟大厦、凡尔赛宫、白金汉宫、英国殖民部办工大楼等政治组织的大楼，都是在落成典礼之后，组织权势便发生大幅度的下降，甚至带来了厄运。
如果珀金森了叫中国历史，肯能会找到更多的例证，比如阿房宫，秦始皇陵等。为什么这些以豪华著称的建筑物，都成了这些组织的―令莫‖了？
珀金森以科学的态度进行如下推测：一个组织在兴旺发达之时。往往紧张而忙碌，没有时间和精力去设计和修建琼楼玉宇，当所有的重要工作都已经完成，想到要修建与其成就相称的大楼时，其时间和精力遍集中到表面功夫上，当某个组织的大楼设计和建造趋向完美之际，她的存在就开始失去意义。完美我的楼堂意味着这定局，而定居意味着终结。摘自《方圆法制》
The Meaning of Wane on the Skyscraper
珀金森‘s rule of business office is : the more perfect designed and more luxury the decoration cornament is, the nearer to its deadline.
He found out that many profitable business companies were all placed at some not so eye-catching locations and in the shady houses. Ever since moved into luxury mansions, these companies may led to its last day/wither away. For example, religious institutions such as 圣彼得教堂、罗马教堂、梵蒂冈教堂, were built from the park of power, and at the exact time, their religious power become weak and even bad fortunes by them.
If 珀金森 know Chinese history, then he may find more proofs like 阿房宫，秦始皇陵. I am wondering that why those architecture well-know as luxury al because the ―tomb‖ of their bodies?
With scientific spirit, 珀金森 showed us his inference: when an institution is prosperous than never, it was too busy to design and build mansion with enough time and energy, while all key work done and considering to build a large building comparable to its achievements, its time and energy were concentrated on those superficial stuffs. When the design and building work of a constitution was about to complete, it has began to lose its meaning. 完美我的楼堂意味着这定局，而定居意
味着终结。摘自《方圆法制》
10.在沉默中面对
最真实，最切己的人生感悟是找不到言辞的。
对于人生最重大的问题，我们没跟人都是能在沉默中独自面对。我们可以一般的谈论爱情、孤独、幸福、苦难、死亡等等，但是，那属于每个人自己的真正意义始终在话语之外。我无法告诉别人我的爱情有多么温柔，我的孤独有多么绝望，我的幸福有多么美丽，我的幸福有多么美丽，我的苦难有多么沉重，我的死亡有多么荒诞。我只能把这一切藏在心中，我所说出的写出的东西只是先思考的产物，而一切思考在某种意义上都是一种逃避，从最个别的逃向一般的，从命运逃向生活，从沉默的深渊逃向语言的彼岸。如果说他们尚未沦为纯粹的空洞的概念，那也只是因为他们是从沉默中挣扎出来的，身上还散发着深渊里不可名状的事物的七夕。
我不否认人与人之间沟通的可能，但我确信其前提是沉默，而不是言辞。美特林克说得好：沉默的性质解释了一个人灵魂的性质。在不能共享沉默的两个人之间，任何言辞都无法使他们的灵魂发生沟通。对于未曾在沉默中面对过相同问题的人来说，在深刻的哲理也只是一些套话，事实上那些浅薄的读者奇缺分不清深刻的感悟和空洞的感叹，格言和套话，哲理和老生常谈，平淡和平庸，佛性和故弄玄虚的禅机。一个人言辞理解的深度取决于他对沉默理解的深度，归根结底取决于她的沉默，亦即他的灵魂的深度。所以，在我看来，凡有志探究人生真理的人首要功夫便是沉默，在沉默中面对他灵魂中真正属于自己的重大问题。到他有了足够的孕育并因此感到不堪重负的时候，一切言语之门便向他打开了，这是他不但理解了有限的言辞，而且理解了言辞背后的沉默着的背后无限的存在。（摘自《中国社会报》）
Facing the Reality in Silence
The truest and most expressive thought was hardly be expressed.
We all face it alone in silence to the most important thing in life. We can talk occasionally about love, loneliness, happiness, miseries, death and so on, but the true meaning is hard to deliver by words. I cannot tell others how gentle my love is; how desperate my loneliness is; my enjoyable happiness is; how depressive my miseries is; how ridiculous my death is. I have no choice but to hide then deeply in my heart. All what I said and wrote but the product of thinking, while thinking, to some extend, is a kind of escape which from the particular to general, fate to life and the abyss of silence to the bank of language. If they have not become pure/solely and abstract idea, it is merely because they have newly struggled out from the silence and with something hard to tell in their bodies.
I am not to deny the possibility of communication between human beings, but the condition. It is silence, instead of words. 美特林克 had an excellent explanation: the nature of silence tells the nature of one‘s soul. There is no any words may have a possibility to make a communication between their soul if the two cannot share the same silence. To those who have not solved the same questions in silence, even
profound philosophy is only some polite formulas. In fact, those superficial reader have no ability to identify the profound philosophy and abstract thoughts, proverb and polite formulas, philosophy and 老生常谈, insipid/prosaic and commonplace, the knowledge of Buddha dharma and deceitful trick. One‘s ability in words comprehension is based on his understanding to silence and eternally based on his silence; that is his capacity of soul. Therefore, I insist that the lesson of one who is determined to seek the life philosophy is silence----to face his important problem of sale in silence. Until he has enough accumulation and too tires to bear, all windows opened to him. This is the way that he not only understands the limited words, but also the unlimited information behind the silence of words.
14.容易走的都是下坡路
他在一所大学做教授，90岁的时候，荏苒每天坚持工作8小时，不论春秋冬夏，也不论风霜雨雪。
他的秘书说：―他很衰弱，但是每天逼着自己从住的地方走过两个街口到办公室来，这段路要走一个小时，他却一定要走，因为这使他自觉有成就感。‖
有一天，有个大学生从他办公室里出来，捧着一大堆书，一脸不高兴的抱怨：―总是这一套。我问一个和简单的问题，他可以用一个‘是‘或‘否‘回答，却给我十几本书，说可以在这些书里找到我所要的答案。‖
他后来知道了这个学生的抱怨，微笑着说：―这就是我学到的读书方法，艰难费事的方法。那孩子如能好好的钻研这些书，就可以了解这个问题，将来也许能成为一个好律师。‖
这个90岁的老人就是曾任美国哈佛大学法学院院长的庞德。
有一位哲学家说：―你应该每一两天做一些你不想做的事。‖
这是人生进步的基础。
正如另一位哲人所说―容易走的都是下坡路。‖
All Slopes are Easy to Go
He was a professor. At the age of 90, he still work eight hours everyday regardless the season and weather.
His secretary said: ―He is extremely old, but he forced himself walk from his living place to office through two blocks. It would take him an hour, but he insisted to because it makes him get a sense of success. ‖
The other day, an university student step out from his office with a pile of books. He complained emotionally: ―He is always this man. He may answer me just with ?yes‘ or ?no‘ to my question. However, he always gave me dozens of books and suggests me to find the answer. ‖
Later, he knew what this student complained. He told with smile: ―This is the method I have learnt, a hard and troublesome way. If that kid could make full use of those books, he might know his question and maybe a good lawyer in the future.‖
This 90-year-old man was 庞德, who was the president of law college in Haward University.
Once a philosophist said: ―You should do some thing that you don not want to
every one or two days.‖
This is the foundation of life progress.
Just like another phlosophist said: ―all slopes are easy to go. ‖
16．公平的分配
一个炎热的下午，两个农民在一棵大树下乘凉。其中一个叫拉姆，另一个叫希亚。两个人都带着美味的面包充当午饭。拉姆带了3个面包，希亚带了5个。正当他们准备吃午饭的时候，一个商人路过此地。
―下午好，两位先生。‖商人向拉姆和希亚问候道。商人看起来又累又饿，所以拉姆和希亚邀请他和他们一起吃午饭。
―但是我们有三个人怎么分这三个面包呢？‖拉姆为难了。
―我们把面包放在一起，再把每个面包切成均等的三块。‖希亚建议道。 把面包切开后，他们把面包平均分成三份，每个人都不多也不少。
吃完面包后，商人坚持要给他们钱。拉姆和希亚推辞不掉，只好收下。 待商人离开后，两人一数金币的数量——8个。
―8个金币，两个人。我们就每人4个金币。‖拉姆说道。
―这不公平。‖西亚大声反对，―我有5个面包，你只有3个。所以我应该拿5个金币，你只能拿3个。‖
拉姆不想争吵，但他也不想给希亚5个金币。
―我们去找村长做裁决。他是个公正的人。‖拉姆说道。
他们来到村长毛尔维的家，把整个事情的经过告诉了他。毛尔维想了很久，最后说：―分配这笔钱的公平办法就是希亚拿7个金币，拉姆拿1个。‖
―什么？‖拉姆惊叫道。
―我为什么该得7个？‖希亚也觉得很奇怪。
当毛尔维把他的分配理由解释清楚后，拉姆和希亚打偶没有对这个分配再提出异议。
这真的是一个公平的裁决吗？
要知道毛尔维的裁决是否公平，就要先回答这些问题：
1、8个面包被切成了多少块？
2、每个人吃了多少块面包？
3、拉姆的面包被分成了多少块？
4、拉姆吃了8块面包，还剩几块留给商人？
5、希亚的面包被分成了多上块？
6、希亚吃了8块面包，还剩几块留给商人？
毛尔维决定只给拉姆一个硬币，而给希亚7个，是因为商人吃了8块面包，只有一块是从拉姆的面包中来的，而其余7块都是希亚的。
点示：我们愤愤不平，太多是因为我们只会算计，不会计算。
Just Allocation
In a hot afternoon, two farmers were enjoying the cool under the tree. One farmer called L and the other called X. both carried tasty bread as their lunch. Ltook three bread and X five. A businessman passed by when they were ready to have lunch.
―good afternoon, gentlemen.‖ The businessman greeted L and X. the
businessman was tires and hungry. L and X invited him to have dinner together.
―But we three men how to separate three breads? ‖ L confused.
―Let‘s put the breads together, then divide every one into three equal parts.‖ X suggested.
Cutting and dividing the breads, they all got the exact one.
Eating up the breads, the businessman insisted to pay and L and X have no idea but to get it.
When the businessman went away, L and X counted the number of golden bills----eight.
―Eight bills, two person. Four bills every one.‖ L said.
―It‘s unjust,‖ X opposed loudly, ―I had five breads and you just three, so I should get five bills and you three.‖
L reluctant to argue, neither would he gave X five bills.
―Let‘s invite our village manager Morwey‘s house and tell all to him. ‖ Thinking for a while, Morwey replied: ―The just way to distribute these bill is X take seven bills and L one.‖
―Pardon?‖ L screamed.
―Why should I posses seven?‖ Xalso felt strange.
After Morwey explained his reason clearly, both Land X had no dispute on this allocation.
Was this really a just rule?
Answer these questions before you decide whether it was just or not:
1. How many small pieces the eight breads were divided into?
2. How many pieces every one ate?
3. How many small pieces did L‘s breads?
4. How many pieces L left for the businessman after he ate eight?
5. How many small pieces did X‘s breads were divided into?
6. How many pieces X left for the businessman after he ate eight?
The reason that Morwey only gave L one bill and X seven because the businessman ate eight pieces and only one was left from L‘s while other seven pieces from X.
Tips: we always indignant mostly because we are used to scheming, but not counting.
18.事情有多重要
我有一个手提箱要给你，里面有100万美元现金。手提箱放在离你现在住的地方大约1小时车程的一幢大楼上，条件是：你要在2小时内到达那幢大楼。如果在2个小时之内到，我就把皮箱交给你，你就多了100万美元。但是只要你迟到一分钟，你就一分钱都得不到。那么你什么时候出发去拿幢大楼呢？
很多人会回答：―现在就去。‖你呢？
你出发了。跳上你的车，发动，向那幢大楼方向开去。你相当激动，计划着怎样花那100万美元。突然，路上堵车了，你的车子开不动了。你打开收音机，发现在你和那幢大楼之间发生了重大交通事故，你没有别的路可以到达那里。你会怎么办？你会打道回府吗？或者打开车门走出来，走路（跑步或雇用直升飞机
或用别的方法）去那幢大楼？
如果你去看牙医，在路上也发生堵车，你肯定会转回家，跟牙医约另一天。 这两种情况为什么会不一样？因为出行的目的是不同的。如果你要做的事情对你非常重要，再大的困难你都会设法克服; 如果你觉得要做的事情不是很重要，遇到困难你就会放弃了。
所以，克服困难的最好的方法，就是把你要做的事情看得非常重要。 How Important It is
There is a suitcase for you with a million US dollar in .
The suitcase is placed in a building away from you about one hour driving. The condition is, you need to get there within two hours. If you did, I will give you the suitcase with a million US dollar. Or if you late for only one minute, nothing will you get. When would you get about?
Many would say: ―Now.‖ will you?
Now you set out. You hurry into your car, start it, drive for the building. You are so excited and wonder what to do about the one million US dollars. All of a sudden, you are stopped by the traffic jam. You turn on the radio and find there is no any way to get there because of the accident on your way. What will you do nest step? Go back? Or step out your car, go to the building on foot (running or employ a helicopter or other ways)?
If, you are on the way to the dentist‘s office and there is a traffic jam, surely you would turn back and appoit for another time.
Why is there difference between these two thins? Because of the destination. If it is quite important for you, you will conquer it, regardless any hardship; or if yit is not so serious, you may call it a day.
Therefore, the best way to face the difficulty is to make the thing a business.
21.强光也是一堵墙
一位父亲问他正读小学三年级的儿子：―阴天的夜晚，天空中看不到星星，是星星不存在吗？‖
儿子很干脆的回答：―不是。‖
父亲又问：―那位什么我们一颗星星也看不见呢？‖
儿子答：―是云把星星都遮住了。‖
父亲接着又问儿子：―晴空万里的白昼，天空中也看不见星星，是星星不存在吗？‖
儿子有些犹豫，显然不知道该如何回答父亲这个问题。
父亲见儿子答不出，稍停了一下，说：―其实白天星星也存在，它们大都是恒星，永远存在于太空中，只是我们肉眼看不到罢了。‖
儿子好奇地问：―这又是为什么呢？‖
父亲想了一下。告诉儿子说：―是太阳的光太强了，它把所有星星的光都盖住了。‖
在生活中，很多人，很多事，也是如此。因为一个人或一件事所拥有的光环太强，不仅会把这个人或这件事本身的缺点遮住，而且还会把周围其他人或其他事的优点也都遮住，让大家无法看到他周围人的真实面目或其他事的真相。这不是按个人的眼睛出了问题，而是因为对方的光太强了。
很多时候，强光也是一堵墙，是一堵肉眼看不见的墙，又是一堵肉眼无法看过去的墙，他可以迷惑我们正常的眼睛，也可以挡住我们正常的目光。
Intense Light, a Wall as Well
A father is asking his son in grade three: ―We cannot find the star in the shady night. Is it not there?‖
His son answered it with clear –cut accent: ―No.‖
The father asked again: ―Then why we cannot see any star?‖
His son replied: ―The cloud hide them.‖
Again the father asked: ―There is no star in the sunny daytime. Where are they?‖ Hesitated, his son seemed have no idea to respond.
For a moment, the father said: ―Actually there is yet stars but most of them are恒星,and stay in the universe. It is just we cannot see them with our eyes. ‖
His son asked curiously: ―Why?‖
Thinking for a while, the father answered: ―Because the sunlight is too intense, and it shade the stars‘ light.‖
The same goes to many things in our lives. The intense light of one person or one thing, may not only shade its own defects, but also the merits of the person or thing around it and makes it difficult for others to identify the facts besides him. This is not the problem of one‘s eye, but the intense light.
Most cases, the intense light is a wall, a wall that cannot see and stride with our eyes. Not only can it confuse our normal eyes, but also hinder our normal sight.
25 看着前方
一个朋友对我说:―当你忧伤时，请看着前方。‖
说来也怪，每当自己忧伤时，我很少看着前方，不是低低垂首，就是闭目不瞻，即便抬头仰望星空，也是越看越茫然。忧伤时，自己的视野真的窄了。
这个朋友有一个冰雪聪明的女儿，美丽得像朵舞蹈着的花，但她完全看不到外边的世界。朋友曾经伤心欲绝，但没有人能够帮助到他疗伤，是残酷的生活教会他看着前方，发现和拥有那些前行一段路程才能得到的喜悦。
看着前方，他看到已经长大的女儿——她更加漂亮乖巧，学会了自己照顾自己；她穿上了黑色的练功服、白色的舞蹈鞋，黑黑的头发盘得高高的，用发光的发带竖了起来；她时刻微笑着，那是汇集在她嘴角的点点明媚的春光；她变得坚强睿智，能够自食其力，如她所愿，果真成了一名受人欢迎的舞蹈老师、、、、、、
我们敲门时，上帝总是不在家。诗人朗费罗为此感慨不已：―你的命运一如他人，每个生命都会下雨。‖下雨时，忧伤时，最值得做的事情就像这位朋友所说的:看着前方！一分钟不行，再看一分钟，久久地看，一次又一次地看，用一生的经历来看，用最真的爱满怀着希望来看。看看是不是―所有的雨都会停‖，看看雨后的天空是不是更洁净、更辽远、更美丽，是不是还会奇迹般地出现彩虹。
上帝总有回家的时候，雨水总会停下，前方总有希望和喜悦。
Look Ahead
Once a friend suggested me: ―Look ahead when you are sad. ‖
It is this weird that ever when I am in sad, I am always bow my head or shut my
eyes regardless his suggestion. Even when I catch a glimpse of the sky with stars, but again at sea. When I am depressed, my vision narrowed.
This friend has a lovely and smart daughter and so charming like a flower in dancing. But, she is unable to see the outside world clearly. My friend ever so grieve that he was so pessimistic. No other aids seem to help him, but he gained the delight after a journey of hardship with looking ahead that the crucial life taught him.
Look ahead, he has witnessed his daughter‘s experience journey----she is more beautiful and tamer and can take care of herself. She dresses her black excise cloth, with white dancing shoes, black and high-twist hair style with lighting belt; she is always smile, indicating her charming youth in her mouth; she becomes strong in mind and smart, live on herself. As preferred, she becomes a warmly received dancing teacher…
The God is always absent when we knock His door. The great poet 朗费罗 could not help commending, ―Your你的命运一如他人，每个生命都会下雨.‖ When it rains and we feel sad, it is worth looking ahead. If one minute is not enough, then take one more. Looking again and again with a long time, or even your whole life and your love and hope. See whether所有的雨都会停; see the sky after rain if it is cleaner, vaster, more fantastic and see whether there is rainbow in magic.
There is always the time the God go home; the stop for rain and the hope and joyous ahead.
28老故事咂出新滋味
铁杵磨成针的故事告诉我们：白费力气的事尽管感人但却是可笑的。明明买根针就能做活，非要用根大铁棒磨它个三年两载。方向和方法错了，功夫下的再深也不行。
三顾茅庐的故事告诉我们：机遇是等来的。如果孔明先生主动上门求职，就不见得有这样的效果。不过，这话只适合古代，现代人即使比孔明的本事大十倍，坐在家里干等也不见得有机遇出现。天知道重视人才的观念是进步了还是退步了。
龟兔赛跑的故事告诉我们：永远不要以己之短比别人之长，更不要因一时的侥幸成功把短当成长。如果是乌龟，可以跟兔子比潜水，也可以跟兔子比长寿，这才是乌龟的强项。
井底的之蛙故事告诉我们：什么样的环境早就什么样的人生，反过来也同样，什么样的人生适合什么样的环境。别指责青蛙的短浅愚昧，因为蛙绝不可能从井底迁到东海生存。如果蛙受了教育启发，从此志在东海，那只有徒增烦恼了。
武松打虎的故事告诉我们：英雄有时是被逼出来的。武松胆儿再大也是正常人，没有人不拍老虎的道理。要不是犟脾气加上十五碗小酒，决不回去做打虎的壮举。其实他也没想到会遇上老虎，真的遇上反而酒都被吓醒了，说明他并不是真的想当英雄。不是他死就是虎亡，他把自己逼成了英雄。现实的很多典型与此很类似，每一个英雄的出现都是有前提的。
螳臂当车的故事告诉我们：即便粉身碎骨，也要为改变现状做一些看似无效的努力。也许，当轮前的螳臂多了，车会慢下来或者停下来。
New understanding to classic stories
铁杵磨成针tells us：Moving as the strenuous deeds, it is actually ridicules. Instead of buying a needle, he insisted to rub an iron stick exhausted for years. It is useless to work hard once the direction and method was wrong.
三顾茅庐tells us：The opportunity is get by waiting. If Mr. Kong applied his position spontaneously, the result might be the other one. After all, it practices only in the old age. Though ten times the wisdom than King Ming, we modern people may lose enormous opportunities. Who knows if the attention to the talents is more or less?
龟兔赛跑 tells us：Never compete its shortcomes with other‘s merits, nor take the shortcomes as advantages for a short-time fortune. If you were a turtle, compete diving or lifespan with rabbit because these are your advantages.
井底的之蛙 tells us：Man is what his surrounding and vise verse. The surrounding is fit for the man. Never condemn frog‘s narrow and foolish, for it never survive in the East Sea, it just a trouble made by itself.
武松打虎 tells us：Hero is sometimes be made. A common though 武松‘s tremendous courage, for nobody without fear to tiger. Thanks to his stubborn and the fifteen 小酒, 武松 had the honor to kill the tiger. He also never knew that he might come across a tiger. His mind became clear the moment he saw the tiger; it showed he is not planned to be a hero. To be or not to be; was he kill the tiger and because a hero. Just like many incidents in life, every hero appears out of some conditions.
螳臂当车 tells us：To change the situation, it prefers to do some useless efforts though it may die in pieces. Or maybe, when number of the same doers increased, the 车 may sow down or stop surprised.
31年龄加减法
发明大王爱迪生，在他79岁时，自豪而风趣地对人们宣布：―我已经是135岁的人了。‖
流行天后麦当娜，在她40岁时，语出惊人地对外宣称，她应该是35岁才合理。
79岁的爱迪生为何加岁到135岁？因为他积攒了超出常人多倍的时间财富：16至60岁，爱迪生通常每天工作18~20小时，而在实验关键期，他则常常会通宵达旦、废寝忘食地连续奋战几昼夜；60岁后，人们劝服他缩减了工作量，但每天仍要干16小时；80岁后，他依然坚持白天准时去实验室，一干一整天，晚上回家还要读3~5小时的书。爱迪生一生积攒和珍惜时间，如按平常人一生活动和工作的时间来计算，他的生命早已成倍延长了，寿命早就大大增长了，所以他才将79岁加成135岁。
40岁的麦当娜为何要减岁到35岁？因为她认为生命中有些岁月是被浪费的，所以理应减去：她与前夫的婚姻，有一整年是在争吵中浪费掉的，减1岁；她与好友因事翻脸，两年友情算空白，减2岁；她出演过一部烂片，那一年毫无价值，又减1岁；她与某男星屡传绯闻，那一年没有意义，再减1岁。这般算来，她整整少了5岁，一下子从40岁减成35岁。年龄加减法，加入的是珍惜的时光，
减去的是浪费的岁月；加入的是有意义有价值的时光，减去的是被挥霍被耗空的岁月。善用减法，可理智地梳理和清点过去；善用加法，可合理地安排现在，规划未来。
The Counting Rule of Age
At the age of 79, the inventor Adison announced with pound and humor: ―I am 135 years old.‖
Seemingly, at the age of 40, the popular queen Madana declared surprised that actually 35 years old might be more reasonable to her then.
Why Adison thought he was 135 years old but not 79? This is because he accumulated the double working time than normal people: from 16-year-old to 60-year-old, Adison usually worked 18~20 hours every day. At some key point, he might worked all day and all night long without thinking of food and rest for several days in a row.; after 60 years old, he was suggested to decrease his work, but he insisted to work 16 hours every day; after his 80 years old, he still went to his lab punctuately and worked all day with another three to five hours‘ reading after going home. The time that Adison accounted and treasured, if counted as the time scheme that normal people, his lifespan has undoubtedly doubled. Therefore, his age was not 79 but 135.
Why Mdana held that she should be aged 35 but not 40? This is because she thought that sometime was be wasted in her life and of course should eliminated: the marriage time with her pre-husband was wasted in quarrels. This should be cut one year; the time she turned her back to her friend for something. This should reduce two years; she once been a actress in a nonsense film for a worthless year. This should delete one year; she was spotted with enormous love affairs should be cut; in this way, she totally lost five years and from the age of 40 t 35. The counting rule of age, add the treasure time and reduce the wasteful; accumulate the meaningful and worthy years, while cut the meaningless and worthless moment. Good at counting rules, you can carding and check your past in a wise way; good at counting rules, you can arrange yourself and make a plan for your future in a proper road..
38、站在海伦的身后
有人问盲人作家海伦.凯勒，谁对她的人生影响最大？她回答：―安妮.沙利文！‖安妮却纠正说：―不，对你人生影响最大的人，是一位清洁女工。‖
幼年的沙利文因严重眼疾，脾气暴躁，被关进福利院的笼子。一个清洁女工经常钻进笼子去安抚她，关怀她。安妮的心灵慢慢康复了。她离开福利院后，被培养成一名教师，第一个学生就是海伦。
海伦身后站着安妮，安妮身后是清洁女工，女工身后肯定还有好人。社会是由无数条―善‖和―恶‖的长链组成。你的一个温馨的眼神，经过N次传递放大，长链的另一端可能连着一位伟人；而你的一句侮辱性的话语，那长链没准会牵着一个混世魔王呢！
Standing behind Helen
Someone asked blind writer Helen·Kater who had the most influence on her. She
answered : ―安妮.沙利文‖ ―No, the man influenced you most is a ceaner.‖
Young 沙利文 had a serious disease in her eyes. She was in locked in a 福利院‘s cage because of her bad temper. Luckily, there was a cleaner often got into the cage, comfort and took care of her. Afterwards, Anny graduate healed and left the 福利院. Ever since she became a teacher, she first student was Helen.
There ws Anny behind Helen, and then the cleaner, and maybe some more kind person. Society is a long chain with numerous ―kind‖ and ―evil‖. Your gentle eyesight, through delivering and expanding for N times, there maybe be a great on the other side; while an insulting sentence may link with a fiend.
57. 识人五视
古人在实践中积累了一套识人、用夕、的经验，归纳起来为―五视‖，即: 居视其所亲。注意观察一个人平时跟谁在一起。如与贤人相近，则可重用;相反，若与小人为伍，就要加以当心。
富视其所与。看他如何支配自己的财富舀如果只满足私欲，大肆挥霍，贪图享乐，则不可重用。
达视其所举。如已处于显赫之位，需要观察他如何来选拔部属。若任人唯贤，量才录用，自然是襟怀坦荡、秉公办事的有为之士。
穷视其所不为。对处于困境之人，可以视其操守如何。若虽身处困境，却不做任何苟且之事，这样的人就可以放心地委以重任。
贫视其所不取。看一个人在贫困潦倒之时的行为。不取不义之财，甘守清贫，则品性高洁。若见钱眼开，如蝇逐臭，就万不可重用。
（摘自《南昌晚报》魏信德/文）
Five Observation Ways to Just a Talent
The Chinese ancestors have accumulated a serious of experience to just and adopt talents, i.e., five observations.
To observation who to be with: Know more details about his companies. 重用 if e groups with talents; be cautious if he together with villain.
To observe how to conduct with: See how he would conduct his fortune. He is not supposed to (be) 重用 if he is just satisfy himself, waste fortune and covet self-enjoyment.
To observe how to select: See how he select his potential sub-manager in a leading position. The man who is 任人唯贤，量才录用 must be the promising ones who broad in mind and just in business.
To observe what to avoid: Know more about his integrity while in trouble: 若虽身处困境，却不做任何苟且之事，这样的人就可以放心地委以重任。
To observe what to deny: Know more about his choice when he is in poverty. The ideal one is不取不义之财，甘守清贫，则品性高洁。若见钱眼开，如蝇逐臭，就万不可重用。
70.谦逊是把双刃剑
大学时代，马克·赫德曾被一位老师提名竞争学生会主席。尽管他信心十足，
但由于他在回答校方提问时表现得过于谦逊和谨慎，以致与这个职位失之交臂，且在毕业就业时受此影响，未能进入心仪的公司。
虽然马克最终以自己出色的能力被惠普公司聘用，但是他依旧觉得沮丧。他反思了许久，得出了一个结论—自己被所谓的―谦逊‖迷惑。失去去了最好的机会。后来，马克凭着自己的能力，出任了惠普的CEO。
那天，董事会来电话，要他参加董事会议。马克觉得会上场景似曾相识。董事们有意让马克接任惠普的CEO，因为在产品宣传与销售问匙上，惠普遇到了难题。
同样一个问题:你有信心把惠普做得更好吗?
马克给出了与上一次不同的回答。他说:―这是毫无疑问的，至少我保证，情况不会像现在这么糟糕!‖
事实上，通过考验的马克，表现出了极强的个人能力。自从他出任CEO后，惠普产品多面开花，通过筛选渠道，减少成本，加大宣传，经营业绩稳步增长。
在接受电视采访的时候，主持人问：―有人说，你的形象是儒雅，知性，睿智，谦逊的。的怎么看？‖马克着重就―谦逊‖谈了自己的见解。他认为，不恰当的―谦逊‖是把双刃剑，往往会断了―谦逊者‖的发展之路。
马克说：―要做到真正的谦逊，需要明白三点：
首先，谦逊不是自我否定，自我否定只能让你与机会擦肩而过并留下惋惜。 其次，谦逊就是把话说到你的能力值以下，比如你能考A，那么先肯定自己能考B+。
最后，谦逊不是在面对别人质疑.或者面对问题的时候说?哦，我想我办不到‘，而是懂得抓住机会。成功之后，面对别人的赞美时说:?其实没什么，只要努力，每个人都能做到!‖‘
(摘自《读者》2阅9，10上善若水/文)
Modesty is a Double-edged Sword
In his university time, 马克·赫德 was nominated to campaign for the chairman of the Student Union. Tough very confident, he lost the chance for his over modesty and caution when answering questions. This had a bad influence on him when he graduated and seeked his job.
Still dismay, though he was appointed by 惠普公司 with excellent ability. He considered for a long time and then came to a conclusion----he was confused by the so----called modesty. Later, for his outstanding ability, he became the CEO.
The other day, the board called him to represent the board meeting. Mark felt the same scene as ever. The reason that the board let Mark e the CEO was that there were some problems in publicity and sale.
The same question: Are you confident to de better job for 惠普?
Then Mark gave the opposite reply than the last time. He said: ―it is undoubted that I can promises. At least be better than now. ‖
In fact, after trials of tests, Mark did an excellent job. Ever since his nomination, 惠普 company produced varies styles of product. Through selecting mediums, decreasing cost, pay attention to publicity, the company‘s sales grew steadily.
When being interviewed, the holder asked: ―Someone think you are gentle, knowledge, wise and modest. We would like to know your opinion.‖ Mark expressed
his understanding on ―modesty‖. He insisted that unreasonable modesty is a double-edged sword, which may destroy his future.
He said that to be really modest, keep three points in mind:
Firstly, modesty is not to deny yourself, for it let you lose the chance and feel regret.
Secondly, modesty is to evaluate yourself below your ability umber. For instance, if you can get A, then be sure you can get B+.
Lastly, modesty is not to say ―actually, everyone can do that so as you work had‖ to answer others‘ praise.
79 “板”忌短 “针”宜长
一个木桶能装多少水，不是由那些长板决定的，而是由那块最短的板决定的，这就是经济学上的―短板原理‖。用到一个人身上，短板就是指致命的缺点或弱点。譬如说，一个人哪儿都好，文武双全，能说会道，有能力有水平，可就是沉溺于赌博，那么决定他命运的就不是―哪儿都好‖的那些长板，而是赌博这块短板，他最终身败名裂，也许可能就是因为这块短板。
在一个楼房林立的地区，虽然每栋楼房都安有避雷针，但真正和雷电接触能起到避雷作用的，是那根最高的避雷针，其他避雷针基本都是摆设，这就是―避雷针原理‖。如果用来比喻一个人，最高的避雷针就是指他的最突出特长，他的最有效的谋生手段。一个多才多艺的人，如果没有一项最能拿出手的技艺，他的多才多艺就只能是漂亮的点缀，没有多大实际用处。
人非圣贤，所以人人都可能有―短板‖，一个真正聪明睿智的人，应当尽量补齐自己的―短板‖，如果实在不能补齐也要始终对其保持警惕，遏止其发展，千万不要让其成为导致自己人生失败的致命缺点。
另一方面，则要竭力打造自己―最高的避雷针‖，不必事事处处和别人比长短，而只在自己最突出的长项、技术、专业上争高下;不要当行行通行行松的―万金油‖，要力争成为某一行业的专家、内行.、权威、大腕。若果如此，―短板‖不短，―避雷针‖又极高，成功的大门便会一叩即开。
（摘自 《重庆晚报》 陈鲁民/文）
Short Plank, Long Needle
The so-called ―短板原理‖ sys the capacity of a wooden tub is not determined by the long planks, but the shortest one. Applying to a person, the short plank is his shortcome or weak point. Or example, a versatile seems both文武双全，能说会道，有能力有水平，but addicted in gambling, he is then, identifying himself not with those long planks, but the shot ones. Finally, he may 身败名裂. This is maybe his ―short plank‖.
Among the building forest with 避雷针, it is the highest one that truly make a difference in 避雷, and others made little. This is called ―避雷针原理‖. If, comparing to a person, the highest 避雷针 is his special point and the method to make a living.
A versatile without any special points, his techniques are useless and just for decorating.
All human beings are but the ones with shortcome; while a truly smart man is supposed to make up his ―short plank‖ with his all efforts. If impossible, he would better be careful about it and not let it be worse. It is so important to let he know that avoid to fail for this spot.
On the other hand, to make yourself the ―highest避雷针‖ and never bother to compare with others. Instead, it is to be the best with your profession. In addition, never be the Mr. know-it-all, but a professor in a particular field. In this way, no short plank and having high避雷针, you will on your way to success.
86 心情是别人的
好多人认为心情是自己的，其实，心情还是别人的。一段时间，我身体不是很好，感觉烦燥，妻子对我说，身体不好就去看，你这样对身体也没好处啊!你不高兴，喊和孩子能高兴吗?还有一次，父亲说话，我感觉烦。妻子说，既然父亲说了，你就答应，至于你怎么做，还不是你说了算，我们能为老人做什么。只能让他们高兴。我也为此深感内疚。
人刚出生就有了心情。那时，饿了就哭，不隐瞒心情。长大后知道了，心情可以掩盖，可以调节，这才有了面具之说。
按说心情是自己的，自己可以想怎样就怎样，但其实，因为你的心情而影响了别人心情，从这个意义上说，心情就是别人的。如果你能把心情当作是别人的，也许就会多一份责任，少一份任性;多一份理解，少一份固执;多一份关爱，少一份自私;多一份和谙，少一份纷争。
（摘自《家庭主妇报》 孙志昌/文）
Our Mood Belong to Others
Most of us hold that our moods are of ourselves. Actually, our moods belong to others. For a long time, I did not feel well and always upset. My wife comforted me and asked me to see the doctor. ―Your condition does matter to yourself. On other condition, how can you make kids feel well when you are not feeling well? Another time, I was so annoyed with the talking of my father. My wife explaining again: ―You‘d better offer your sincere. As for how to do, you are the master. What we should do is just make them happy.‖ I deeply regretted for my bad manners.
Man got his own mood ever since his birth. While young, we cried when we hungry and never pretended our secrets. As we grew up, we realized that we can hide our mod and adjust it. It is just like a mask.
To be honest, the mood is our own business, and can express in the way we like to. In fact, since your mood has an influence on others, your mood belongs to others, too. If you hold your mod as others‘, then you will be more responsible and less head strong, more understanding and less stubborn, more care and less selfish, more harmony and less dispute.
93.成熟，从不抱怨开始
遇见他，是在一个饭局上。
一落座，他就喋喋不休地抱怨起来：怨公司不好，拼死拼活一个月，拿到手里的工资没多少；怨上司不公，谁擅长拍马就重用谁；怨同事不善，成天勾心斗
角明争暗夺……终于，在他暂停抱怨的间隙，我小心翼翼地问了一句：既然工作如此不称心，为什么不跳槽呢？他一愣，奇怪地看了我一眼，似乎在看一个外星人。 ―跳槽?现在经济这么不景气，往哪里跳？‖一这下我算明白了，原来他的工作并非一无是处啊。
散席后。尽管他热情地与我道别，并且特意留下他的电话，但我，却再未联系过他。对我来说，一个怨气冲天的人，是不值得交往的。
不由得想起阿瑟·阿什。这位美国著名的网球名将，在一次输血时感染了艾滋病。对于他的遭遇，许多球迷深表同情，且因此责怪老天对他太不公平。对此，阿瑟·阿什说道：―知今，我身患绝症，我不怨天，也不怪自己；因为我知道有些事人无法左右，当不幸来临时，我们只能面对。‖
说得多么好!在这段话里，我们看到了从容，看到了平静，看到了坦荡，看到了豁达，看到了一位成熟男人的风范。然而遗憾的是，在现实生活中，面对困难和挫折，我们听得最多的，还是抱怨：怨苍天不公，怨命运残酷，怨人情冷酷……如果说一个人抱怨之后，他的不满与郁闷能够随风而去，心境能够变得开朗起来，那他的抱怨还算是有价值的。可问题在于，抱怨恰如一股阴冷潮湿的黑雾，足以遮蔽他的眼光迷惑他的心智，最终让佑在自怨自艾的泥潭里越陷越深。
人生就是一段旅程，是一段从青涩走向成熟的旅程。而我相信，真正的成熟，是从不抱怨开始的。
（摘自《钱江晚报》苇笛/文）
No Complaint, No Maturation
In a restaurant, I met him.
He was grumbling continuously ever since he sat down, complaining his company for little salary after eternally hard working; the unjust of his line manager who merely promote the one ingratiate him with he; the unkind of colleagues for ganging up with and beating someone while pretending to be well with… Finally, I caught the moment he stopped and enquired him cautiously: since you are so unhappy with your work, why not changing ? he stupefied with a glance to me seemingly an alien ―跳槽？Where should I go? You know that the economy is in the boom.‖ I have got it. Actually, his job was not so terrible.
After the dinner, he said good-bye to me heartily and left me his telephone specially. However, I have never connected him ever. For me, it is out of consideration to make a friend with 一个怒气冲天的人.
It reminds me 阿瑟·阿什, a well-know tennis player in America. He happened to catch the AIDS when he got a blood transfusion. A pile of his fans showed their sympathy and blamed the unjust God. While 阿瑟·阿什 declared: ―I get a deadly cancer, but a would not complain the God and myself because I know that something we can not run away. I have no choice but to face when the day comes.‖
Genius! In his words, there is calmness, magnanimous, open-minded, as well as the demeanors of a mature man. Unfortunately, we complaint everything when we have to face the difficulty and setbacks in reality: we always complaining that the God is unfair; the crucial fate, the grim human beings…It is worth doing if his dissatisfaction go away, depression disappear, feelings become motivational after complaint. But, the problem is, as a mass of shabby and cool fog, the complaint is so
misleading that confuses his mind and then drops him deeper and deeper in the muddy.
Life is like a journey, from ignorant to mature. And I believe that truly mature is start from no complaint.
98. 你会遇到这些人
第一种导师、教练。他教给你的使用技巧一定的工作经不是书本知识。 第二种，陪练、同路人。任何人的成长都不是学出来的，而是学而习、习而成习惯，练出来的。而在这个过程中，一个人很难坚持下来，你需要一个同路人。他可以是和你有共同兴趣、共周目标的朋友，最好是你生命中所爱的人。
第三种，榜样。他是你人生的标杆，不需要通过机遇，只平要通过努力为就可以达到的榜样。
第四种。敌人。就是那些看不起你的人。拒绝过你的人。人，不到绝境是不会有斗之志的，你要证明他是错的，他会给你真正的动力。
第五种，最重要的人是你自己。这个世界上，失败的人除了天分太差之外，还有以下几点：懒、方向不对、方法不对、不能坚持。如果你自乙做不到，就不要怪别人。
（摘自《视野》 陈千影/文）
The Man You Will Meet
First: director, coach. He taught you some skills and working experience that beyond your textbooks.
Second: An assistant and accompany. None is merely born to mock, but further learning and practice. In this course, you are hard to be alone and thereby need an accompany. He maybe be your friend with the same interest and goal. It is better your dearest lover.
Third: A model. He is the destination of your life. You maybe be him without opportunity but all your efforts.
Fourth: An enemy, who overlooked you and rejected you. Men are to be encouraged with hopeless situation. To testify your ability and his false, he will create energy for you.
The fifth: the most important person is you. In this world, except for talents, a failure possessed the following characters: laziness, wrong direction, wrong method and short of resistance. You will never blame others even id you cannot do on your own.